Lately, I’ve been questioning conventional success and exploring Maslow’s ten traits of becoming more fully ourselves. Maslow describes the virtuous life as one directed towards self-actualization. Self-actualization occurs when we maximize our potential by being the best versions of ourselves that we’re capable of being. It’s still a progress for me, but I would like to share the Maslow characteristics of self-actualized people with you so we can learn together.
1. Embracing the Unknown
Accept uncertainty and leave room for life to surprise you. The worst that can happen is lesson and the best? Unlimited possibilities.
2. Accepting Myself, Flaws Included
Accept yourself as you are while continuing to grow. No one is perfect, embrace your imperfections while striving to be better.
3. Learning to Enjoy the Journey
Value ordinary moments instead of postponing happiness until the next milestone. You are still alive, so be grateful for all the little moments.
4. Inherently Unconventional, Yet Do Not Seek to Shock or Disturb
Build a life that feels right to you without needing everyone’s approval. Be authentically you.
5. Motivated By Growth, Not by the Satisfaction of Needs
Shift from acquiring more to becoming more fulfilled by growth in aspects that you want to pursue.
6. Live With a Sense Of Direction and Purpose.
Follow a meaningful direction even when the full path is unclear. Figure it out along the way.
7. Protecting My Peace From Things That Don't Matter
Give your limited attention only to what truly matters. Everything else is just noise.
8. Grateful For What You Have and Where You Are in Life.
Notice and appreciate the parts of your present life that were once dreams. Always remind yourself of your blessings rather than your shortcomings.
9. Choosing a Few Deep Relationships
Nurture a few deep relationships while extending care towards your community and global issues.
10. Stay Humble and Strive to Resist Enculturation.
Question inherited ideas of success and choose what you genuinely value. Once you do that, societal expectations won’t affect you as you have your own definition of living life your way.
Becoming Our Best Selves
Becoming our best selves is not a final achievement but a lifelong process of choosing authenticity, gratitude, meaningful relationships, and the courage to grow. Accepting that a good life need not be perfect, only increasingly true to who we are.
Inspired by Abraham Maslow's Motivation and Personality.